Untold Experiences of Motherhood

Untold Experiences of Motherhood

Motherhood is an exciting moment that every woman desire to experience. The experience of giving birth to a child, nursing her, watching her grow, and mentoring her into adulthood is beautiful. Or even raising a child that is not your’s biologically is also fulfilling. But it is not always all rosy when it comes to motherhood.

Sometimes motherhood faces some challenges that moms were not prepared for. Moms are forced to learn and adjust to the crisis in motherhood. 

Here are some challenging situations mothers may face. 

  •  Pregnancy Losses

Several women have experience pregnancy loss. This is a very painful moment a woman can ever go through. When a woman confirms the good news of expecting a child, she starts planning for the child from that time. She even pictures what the child will look like, the gender of the baby, the name, and even plans for shopping. With all that joy and expectations, she may feel devastated by a pregnancy loss. This takes all her hopes and the healing journey is not easy.

Losing a pregnancy may cause a woman to feel fearful and anxious as they go through subsequent pregnancies. Women grieve differently, some take time to grieve, heal, and conceive again. 

Dealing with loss is one thing. There is also the anticipation that has been killed. How do you even live knowing that your dreams for a new role have been shattered? Where do you even begin to tell your friends and relative who were waiting to congratulate you? It is such a sad situation that a mom can face. 

  • ILLNESS.

Commonly, a mother or a child may face a physical or mental illness. Some illnesses are so critical that will deny mothers and kids to connect regularly. They also deny them to celebrate special events such as birthdays. It is painful for moms to cope in these situations. Looking at your sick child is not easy knowing that there is not much that you can do to help the baby. Or even when as a mom you are sick and you cannot take care of your kids. Sometimes a mother will be forced to be in a hospital with her child. This interferes with her schedule and it is stressful for the whole family.

  • DISABILITY

Mothering a child with a disability is a challenging situation in motherhood. While an illness may be cured, many disabilities may cause permanent physical or mental impairments. These may limit a child’s ability to participate in essential activities for daily living.

 A disability may make it difficult for a child to care for himself, progress

through school, walk, talk, or get a job. Caring for children with disabilities takes time, energy, money, and emotional resources. Mothers are forced to give up some of their interests to care for their kids. 

  • TRAUMATIC INCIDENT

In life, we face some traumatic incidences that we never expected to happen. And, mothering through such a time is so painful for a mother and her child. Traumatic incidences that may affect motherhood include; the death of a family member, divorce, or imprisonment. A frightening event such as a natural disaster or robbery might also affect motherhood.  

 All those painful moments can take away the joy of motherhood. It can leave a family feeling crushed and disrupt its stability. When your motherhood is threatened by those painful moments, look for help. When you look for a support system, you will be encouraged to know that you are not alone in the journey. 

 

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Charity Nyambura is an advocate of women's wellness and a voice for gender equality. She graduated from Egerton University with a Degree in Gender and Development studies.

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