Letting go of what doesn’t serve you

Letting go of what doesn’t serve you

The call to let go of what doesn’t serve you is everywhere. It is trending on social media streets. But how possible is that? As women, we like holding on to things so much and getting attached to things that are no longer valuable. We keep things that we no longer use in our rooms for no reason. So, what do we mean when we say let go of what does not serve us? Or how do you distinguish what serves you and what doesn’t serve you? It simply means what is not useful to you anymore.

What to guide you?

Let me ask, do you have something that takes away your energy? If it takes your energy? How will you remain active to achieve your goals? That which takes your energy away is something that you need to let go of. If it takes all your concentration, let it go. If you cannot perform other tasks because of it, throw it away.

Does it drain you mentally and emotionally? Leave it because it will cause you more harm than you think. Your mental and emotional well-being is crucial for your productivity. As women, we are expected to deliver so much. Our families look up to us, we have careers to build, and society awaits us. To achieve all these, we need good mental health and emotional stability. We cannot afford to keep off is draining us no matter how good it may look. 

Does it make you doubt yourself? Most women in abusive relationships are fond of doubting themselves. This is a red flag every woman should be aware of. If anything makes you not believe in yourself just it go. 

Another question that you should ask yourself is whether it is bringing any return. If it is bringing nothing to you, it is not serving you. It could be an activity you are doing and you cannot see any return. You could also be in a group of people who are taking too much of your time but you cannot show the benefits of the group. 

The last question you can ask yourself is what purpose it serves in your life. If there is no real purpose, do away with it. You need to see the value of what you are holding in your life. Whether it is an item in your house, a relationship, or an activity it should serve a purpose in your life. 

The global pandemic has affected everyone’s emotions and mental health. It has not been easy to cope with the Coronavirus and it will take us a while to deal with the aftermath of the pandemic. Therefore, clinging to things that no longer serve you is not healthy. 

You do not have to do all the tasks that can be done by someone else, and you don’t have to remain in control. 

What to do?

To know what is not serving you, start by outlining what you need. Identify what give you satisfaction, brings value and is a priority to you. Note also the things that keep you motivated. Concentrating on what is bringing value to you will leave no space for things that do not serve you. What are necessities? Let them guide you. 

Some practical thing you can do is to donate clothes or items that you no longer use. This will create enough space in your room and bring you fulfilment. Simple things like cleaning your house and organizing it can also be helpful. 

You can also listen to music that you once enjoyed in childhood for emotional well-being. It will bring energy and comfort to you. It will also help you relax. Watching a good emotional movie is also nourishing. 

Do you feel overwhelmed mentally? Take a piece of paper and write everything out of your head. It is such a good way to get offload your mind. Take some time off the screen. With the busy world, holding on to the things that no longer serve you will cost you. Just let it go!


Charity Nyambura is an advocate of women's wellness and a voice for gender equality. She graduated from Egerton University with a Degree in Gender and Development studies.

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